Plate Spinning - the modern day past time of so many women. We are masters of this, because let's face it, we are skilled multi-taskers, but we can also be so proficient at plate spinning because we are people pleasers and because we find it hard to say no to things.
Some of us are spinning so many plates that we are oblivious (or perhaps avoiding/ignoring) the SOS our bodies are sending out. You see the thing with plate spinning is that the addition of extra plates is sometimes so gradual that we don't notice until that day we start dropping the plates.
Trying to maintain spinning all those plates is a stressful past time. And stress can leave us feeling out of control and highly anxious. When you are spinning so many plates, life is being played out at such a fast pace and it becomes near on impossible to come up for air.
Life then becomes solely about keeping the plates in the air. It doesn't matter how fabulous your life looks or sounds, on paper, if that sense of enjoyment and pleasure from your life disappears.
Recognising the SOS your body is sending out is a good first step in reducing stress. The classic symptoms of spinning too many plates includes:
Feeling overwhelmed, like you are losing control or need to take control
Having difficulty relaxing and quieting your mind
Feeling bad about yourself
Loss of sexual desire
Next step is taking action to address the SOS and here's a few practical things you can try...
SLOW WEEKENDING - Recognise that yes, your Monday-Friday is full on and that actually, what you need more than anything are for your weekends to be at a slower pace. Try switching off your devices, disconnecting from social media and re-connecting with your life. Don't over plan things. Don't feel under pressure to have to 'do things' and 'go places'. Make time to relax. Discover the art of doing nothing. When was the last time you did nothing?
RE-PRIORITISING - when you are feeling overwhelmed it's hard to know what's a priority and what's not. A good place to start is to list all the plates you are spinning on a piece of paper. Work out which plates are MUST do's, which ones are COULD do's, which ones are SHOULD do's and which ones you really didn't need to be spinning at all?
SELF-CARING - Taking time out to come up for air is really important. When your mind is full it's hard to relax so have a think about the things that make you feel relaxed and nourished and put them down on paper. Whether it's a long hot soak in the bath, reading a trashy magazine or binge watching Netflix - allow yourself to do these things as and when you feel the need to (without any guilt).
Catherine Asta Labbett, is the founder and owner of Yorkshire based 'Bringing Sparkle Back' delivering Psychotherapy, Relationship and Life Coaching exclusively for women.